It’s been on my heart to share this blog for a bit, but for me, it hasn’t been so easy to share. My desire to not offend anyone has kept me from writing it.
Within the past 5 days, while out in public, 5 people or more have asked my son the same question:
“What’s Santa Claus bringing you for Christmas?”
That’s an absolutely normal question to hear in December. Last year, we would have had a list of things to reply. This year, as my son looked at me (slightly embarrassed), each time I politely smiled and replied, “He doesn’t believe in Santa Claus.” No one gasped, or clutched their pearls. One lady’s response was, “Oh ok! My kids are too big for that too!” I think it made my son feel better that she didn’t give him a pitiful look.
It’s not that my son is too old for Santa Claus. He wanted to believe in magical elves and reindeer who brought him loads of toys from the north pole. What kid wouldn’t? But I had to be honest with myself. Even though my intentions were loving — and I truly wanted my son to experience the most amazing Christmas experience — I was lying to him.
Proverbs 8:8 All the words of my mouth are righteous; there is nothing twisted or crooked in them.
Proverbs chapter 8 is one of my favorite chapters in the bible. One of the first scriptures I had my son memorize was Proverbs 8:8. I had him write it on an index card, and stick it on the mirror in his room. If I have an issue with him not telling the truth — Proverbs 8:8 is the scripture I will refer to.
When I think about how my Heavenly Father feels about telling a “white lie” so that my son can have a magical Christmas — in my heart, I can hear Him say “All the words of my mouth are righteous. Among them there is nothing twisted or crooked.”
My heart was convicted. I had to stop lying, in the name of a holiday that I proclaimed to be about His Son. He’s not a half-way God.
Leviticus 19:11 “‘Do not steal. “‘Do not lie. “‘Do not deceive one another.
I had to be truthful and admit that by lying — even with good intentions — I was following an example set by my Father’s enemy.
When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. John 8:44
So, I told my son the truth. I think it hurt me more than it hurt him when he said with crocodile tears, “You promised you would never lie to me.” He was hurt over it — and I had to apologize.
I made him believe in magical elves — who he thought watched over him and reported back to Santa. I made him believe that reindeer ate the carrots and celery that he left on the front lawn. I made him believe that every year, he made Santa’s “nice list”, and Santa would reward him for it. For years, I fed his faith in a lie.
Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.
The faith he had in Santa Claus is the faith I should have been pumping into him for his Heavenly Father.
Luke 18:17 Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.
Matthew 18:3-4 And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven…”
Can you imagine the ways God can use us if we have faith as a child in Him? Children naturally believe with all their heart.
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding
Children (who have not been robbed of their innocence) don’t doubt one word that comes from parents who love them. Children trust blindly that their parents know what’s best. When they’re hurt, lonely, afraid, joyful, excited, curious, or needy – -children run to their parents. They genuinely believe parents have all the answers. That’s the faith of a child.
Purposely misguiding my child’s faith is irresponsible on my behalf. It’s not innocent if I know better.
I thank God for what He’s doing in me. My heart thanks Him for drawing near. Our relationship has become precious to me. This holiday season, I won’t compromise. I won’t grieve His Holy Spirit by going against what’s in my heart for Him. No more Christmas lies. No more Santa Claus.
James 4:17 So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.
God is a righteous God. He will never support a lie. He’s Perfect in All of His ways. He’s a Good Father.